ARE YOU REPEATING THE MISTAKES OF YOUR PARENTS?


I come across a lot of people who when I have a discussion with, they tell me how they don’t need to go through Healing or Therapy because they can’t seem to remember being wounded and as such don’t need it.

The truth is a lot of us have been wounded unknowingly by our parents, siblings, friends, spouses, colleagues and society in general and we have no idea.

 Most of us are living a life that have been handed to us by our parents, environment and significant emotional experiences and we don’t even know.

There are four stages of knowing that I have come to realize.

1) Those who don’t know that they don’t know that anything is wrong with them.

2) Those who know that something is wrong and have resigned to fate.

3) Those who know that something is wrong and they want a change but won’t do anything about it.

4) Those who know that there is a problem, they want a change and are ready to go through the process of making a change.

So, which one are you?

Are you living the kind of life that you want to?

Are you repeating the mistakes of your parents??

Are you living the life that you hate and have promised yourself that you wouldn’t live?

Are you stuck because of a certain emotional trauma that have happened to you in the past?

Have you been hurt so many times that you are now numb?

Do you just find yourself emotionally empty as you don’t have any feeling?

Are you constantly feeling pain emotionally and you want to get out of it?

Do you feel helpless by your realities and you have no idea how to get out of them?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you need  HEALING

At this point we need to go back to the source of most of our prevalent problems which is our childhood, environment and significant emotional experiences so that we can;

1) Identify the problem
2) Understand the problem
3) Fix the problem
4) Create a new approach to living life.

Now, it’s your turn to Heal from your known and unknown pain and dysfunction that is remotely controlling your life.
Remember suicide is never an option. You are loved

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