Benny

I’ve read about two suicide cases in two days. One was about #segun and the other one about the UNN student who had a first class. A lot of people’s comments have been so cruel and all they call them is cowards, selfish, weak and so many other unprintable names. These guys and many more who have committed or attempted suicide didn’t want to die. They love life like you and me but all they wanted to was to end the pain and dying looks like it’s what gives them the avenue to do that. Pain can alter you forever. Pain can make you unrecognizable to yourself. What we also need to know is that everyone’s threshold for pain is different. I have had two babies and I can tell you that the last pain nearly took me out until the gynecologist offered me an option for Caesarean or Epidural Injection. Meanwhile, some people can handle labor pain well even for the next 48 hours without any form of relief. Does that make me less of a woman? NO!! It just means I have a low threshold

I am sure a lot of you are familiar with the story of Blessing CEO on Instagram who showed off someone else’s house as her own until the rightful owner came and prove her wrong. A lot of people have had so many things to say about it and I want to look from it from another angle. When she shared the message on her 30th birthday(according to her), she said her husband chased her out of their one bedroom apartment 8 years ago and today she has built a 7 Bedroom Duplex in replacement. So for me, the key word is “chasing away” and what she has done in replacement. In my opinion, she went to that length because SHE WANTED TO PROVE HER EX HUSBAND WRONG!!! This is what a lot of us are doing today. Living to prove our parents, siblings, friends, exes, teachers, mentors and so many other people who have said terrible things about us wrong. We want to show then that they were wrong by looking down on us and without their help we would become someone great in life.When you live

Sorry lovelies, I needed to say this cos its disheartening If you know what Rape victims go through, you will NEVER defend rape. If you know how they struggle with identity crisis for the rest of their adult years, you will stone rapists. If you know how dirty and worthless they feel, you will fight that they castrate rapists.. RAPE is a significant emotional experience that changes the life of the victim forever. Some of them are very angry with life. They react over excessively to things and you will be wondering why they are that edgy. I know this because I see them everyday. I deal with them everyday. I see how torn and broken they are because I help them heal. Some of them can’t give themselves wholly to their boyfriends or husbands because a part of them have been killed. I know a girl who is 20 years and her dad raped her from when she was 9 years old. She is a shadow of herself. Some days she wants to die, other days, she is cutting herself. I feel so pained