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MY SUICIDE NOTE

I’ve read about two suicide cases in two days. One was about #segun and the other one about the UNN student who had a first class. A lot of people’s comments have been so cruel and all they call them is cowards, selfish, weak and so many other unprintable names. These guys and many more who have committed or attempted suicide didn’t want to die. They love life like you and me but all they wanted to was to end the pain and dying looks like it’s what gives them the avenue to do that. Pain can alter you forever. Pain can make you unrecognizable to yourself. What we also need to know is that everyone’s threshold for pain is different. I have had two babies and I can tell you that the last pain nearly took me out until the gynecologist offered me an option for Caesarean or Epidural Injection. Meanwhile, some people can handle labor pain well even for the next 48 hours without any form of relief. Does that make me less of a woman? NO!! It just means I have a low threshold
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STOP LIVING TO PROVE PEOPLE WRONG!!!

I am sure a lot of you are familiar with the story of Blessing CEO on Instagram who showed off someone else’s house as her own until the rightful owner came and prove her wrong. A lot of people have had so many things to say about it and I want to look from it from another angle. When she shared the message on her 30th birthday(according to her), she said her husband chased her out of their one bedroom apartment 8 years ago and today she has built a 7 Bedroom Duplex in replacement. So for me, the key word is “chasing away” and what she has done in replacement. In my opinion, she went to that length because SHE WANTED TO PROVE HER EX HUSBAND WRONG!!! This is what a lot of us are doing today. Living to prove our parents, siblings, friends, exes, teachers, mentors and so many other people who have said terrible things about us wrong. We want to show then that they were wrong by looking down on us and without their help we would become someone great in life.When you live
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BUSOLA DAKOLO’S STORY OF RAPE

Sorry lovelies, I needed to say this cos its disheartening If you know what Rape victims go through, you will NEVER defend rape. If you know how they struggle with identity crisis for the rest of their adult years, you will stone rapists. If you know how dirty and worthless they feel, you will fight that they castrate rapists.. RAPE is a significant emotional experience that changes the life of the victim forever. Some of them are very angry with life. They react over excessively to things and you will be wondering why they are that edgy. I know this because I see them everyday. I deal with them everyday. I see how torn and broken they are because I help them heal. Some of them can’t give themselves wholly to their boyfriends or husbands because a part of them have been killed. I know a girl who is 20 years and her dad raped her from when she was 9 years old. She is a shadow of herself. Some days she wants to die, other days, she is cutting herself. I feel so pained
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Benny: ARE YOU REPEATING THE MISTAKES OF YOUR PARENTS?

Benny: ARE YOU REPEATING THE MISTAKES OF YOUR PARENTS? : I come across a lot of people who when I have a discussion with, they tell me how they don’t need to go through Healing or Therapy because ...
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ARE YOU REPEATING THE MISTAKES OF YOUR PARENTS?

I come across a lot of people who when I have a discussion with, they tell me how they don’t need to go through Healing or Therapy because they can’t seem to remember being wounded and as such don’t need it. The truth is a lot of us have been wounded unknowingly by our parents, siblings, friends, spouses, colleagues and society in general and we have no idea.  Most of us are living a life that have been handed to us by our parents, environment and significant emotional experiences and we don’t even know. There are four stages of knowing that I have come to realize. 1) Those who don’t know that they don’t know that anything is wrong with them. 2) Those who know that something is wrong and have resigned to fate. 3) Those who know that something is wrong and they want a change but won’t do anything about it. 4) Those who know that there is a problem, they want a change and are ready to go through the process of making a change. So, which one are you? Are you living the
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Its been ages

Hi sugars Its been ages I have written..... I kinda miss you guys😍😍. Hope y"all miss me too? I have been quite busy with school and all. Will really find time to write more. Just remember Benny got your back and I'm returning with an amazing, sweet, hot topics. Watch out for those, its gonna be lit🔥🔥🔥🔥
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WHY YOU KEEP CHOOSING FUCK BOYS AND GIRLS

I saw a tweet sometime ago about one lady telling her friend that she attracts “Fuck boys” all the time but her friend told her that she’s a woman that attracts all types of men but she choses fuck boys. Chai!!! That response touched me deeply in my soul and is the reason why I am writing this email today. Have you wondered why you keep choosing people that hurt you over and over again? Could it be that you are replaying a script that you are not even aware of? Check your patterns and see who in your family or around you have gone through or is going through what you are also going through and that may be able to explain your issues. It doesn’t have to be your mum or dad who have had the issues you are having. It could be your guardians or the people around you like your friends that you have known for a very long time. Things don’t just happen in isolation. It’s either you are rebelling or reacting against something from your childhood that you have no idea of. For in
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